Letting go of the BS & how to live your authentic life

Letting go of the BS: How to live your most authentic life

“Get to know yourself truly. Sit down with your heart and start

asking the questions you need to ask. Until you do: everyone

else will tell you”

We live life with the illusion of having endless time. That we

ourselves are infinite. However, the facts tell a very different

story:

Our planet is 4.5 billion years old and us humans (modern homo

sapiens) have only been around for just about 300,000 years.

The average life span ranges between 70-85 if we are lucky.

Looking at the numbers it’s clear to see we do not have infinite

time, living a long life is not a given. In fact, it’s almost like we

are visiting on a quick long haul trip if you like.

And while we can’t control exactly what happens to us, or how

long we will be around for - what we do have power over is with

who, why and how we spent our time. The challenge and the key

(!) to making these decisions comes from knowing our authentic

self: who we are beyond labels and stories, beyond fear and

attachment to outcomes. Who we are on the inside, when our

eyes are closed and no one else is watching.

That’s where we find ourself. That’s where our truest expression

lives.

However, to remember who we were before the world told us, is

the path of the courageous. It is not the ordinary path nor is it the

easiest path. It is an ever evolving practice we must choose each

day, in every single way, for the conditioned self we have

masked ourself behind wears an armour more rigid than stone

and stronger than diamond. Essentially most of us were told not

to be fully ourselves so we instead we invented a safe proof

acceptable version.

The Masked ‘I’

Asking “Who am I (also) and how does this make me feel?” is a

powerful question we must continue to ask ourself over and over

again. Understanding and welcoming multiple answers, staying

compassionately curious as we wander the wastelands of self-

back to “home”.

“Where and how did I lose myself?” we may ask: “Will I ever

find my sense of self again”?Each journey will be unique and perfectly imperfect for that is

how life works in our favour:

Through experience you will get to know and remember who

you are - through understanding and deciding who you are not

you will decide who you want to become. Life is ever changing,

ever evolving and so are we.

Staying curious and flexible in your sense of “self” will be the

making of the authentic you. If you dare to get to know yourself

that is.

To help the start the process we can use the following formula:

Values + Limited Beliefs = Authentic, fulfilled you

How to find your values

1. Make a list of everyone and everything that brings your

energy up and boost your spirit – whether it’s people,

places, hobbies, work, films, music or books.

2. Now take a step back and notice what you naturally feel the

most drawn to and what keeps catching your attention.

Circle them.

3. Notice what you circled and what these bring out in you. Is

it a sense of connection/freedom/love/relaxation/success?

4. From these choose three values that truly lights you up.

These are your current values!

How to find your limited beliefs

Write down a list of positive qualities you feel really good about

starting with I am. For example, I am happy, I am positive.

Now write down their opposites, for example I am happy

becomes I am sad, I am positive becomes I am negative.

Now step back and look at which ones from your “opposites

list” catch your attention.

Circle three of the strongest ones. These are the limited beliefs

which you were most likely told to hide or have been

psychologically trying to run away ever since you were a child.

Now is the beginning of your journey back to authentic living:

back to wholeness, health and abundance.

How to welcome your authentic self - and make sure it

stays

Using the formula you are one big step closer to living your powerful truth, and inviting aligned people, opportunities and

love into your life.

Once we know our current values (which will change as we

change, so keep checking in with yourself) we have a real

opportunity to start living in accordance with them. We can

choose where we place our energy, our money, our attention and

our love. Our priorities start to come from within instead of

outside of ourself.

This energises us and brings back a deep sense of power and

living with purpose. Our own purpose.

Next, we need to embrace what we were told were “wrong”

qualities. We do this by making friends with our limited

beliefs or “shadows” - the lands of shame, guilt, anger, fear

and grief. We were all children once and we all long for

affection and belonging - regardless of current age, postcode

or LinkedIn Status. When we slowly start to invite back the

parts of our psyche, which were shut down by well meaning

(or not so well meaning) authorities when we were children,

we start to not only heal but thrive in life. We become bigger

and better, someone others feel save around and want to be

close to.

Why? Because healthy relationships depends on the health and

capacity of each individual’s relationship to self. The more

whole we are (i.e. the more we have accepted and welcomed

home all parts of ourself) the more we naturally have the ability

to hold space for others wholeness, including their pain.

To be authentic means to be all of you. Which in itself is not

only good for you but a necessity for the greater collective: on

the deepest level, it means giving permission to all of us to come

home. “We are all just little children walking each other home.

”

If we are lucky, all we have is 70-85 years. Let’s inspire each

other to walk life courageously. Let’s let go of the BS and live

life authentically - every moment we are given.